This post is both a quick check-in, an announcement, and a new article, How to be authentic and loving in an emotionally illiterate culture.
Quick check-in from “the land of enchantment”
In November I finished Part 1 (out of 3) of Relational Power, published that draft to all channels, and today put it out to the community (and that includes you): I want to crowd-source the writing, the editing and the marketing — this is very ambitious, needless to say. I had not anticipated the November events in any way, shape or form.
In December I have been trying, with only moderate success, to “get my feet back on the ground”. I have joined a gym and a tennis club (!), showing up there as much as possible, which still isn’t much as my energy is low (I really dig the steam-room, however). I have been struggling with a kind of non-depressive Chronic Fatigue Syndrome — my first-ever non-depressive CFS of my life, which of course is still five times better than ordinary CFS. Ordinary CFS has a depressive element. It’s really not fun.
But most important, I have, and without even trying, been making amazing contacts here. I have, essentially, been practicing “Authentic Relating on the street” with fabulous results. I lead a very-very beginner A/R group here which continues to delight and humble me (because every session is completely different from what I had planned). As told in the linked article, But mostly I am doing A/R informally — meaning that I make jokes, give compliments, ask questions and elicit deeper sharing and connection wherever I show-up, with both friends and strangers. It’s a humble strategy but it’s super-fun for me and usually for them.
And, finally, I am learning a lot about New Mexico, the so-called “land of enchantment”. The saying is more than a metaphor, it is true. For whatever reasons, maybe the climate, maybe the cultural mix (Spanish, anglo and native-american), the veil between the real world and the spirit-world is quite thin here. Carlos Castaneda’s ghost floats near here (and no, I don’t jump 100 feet boulders — yet). My decision to move here has been fully validated. This is a very fertile place to do my work. I am pinching myself. Perhaps my writing a third of a book in a month is not a coincidence.
Announcement: Call for engagement for Relational Power
I am putting out a call for engagement for Relational Power. I want readers, reviewers, editors, and writers. I particularly want case-stories of personal transformation through Authentic Relating practices, because I can’t write this book alone and because I don’t want it to be about my characterology alone, which is an unusual one. If you are up for reading, giving an Amazon review, or giving feedback, please sign up as a partner. I will be in touch.
In parallel news, I am resurrecting As Lovers Do and the memoir, which also went to paperback in December. That decision came after a meeting in a billiards bar. My two friends there, had little interest in Relational Power or the memoir, LOL. They wanted to read As Lovers Do. I am planning some bookstores readings come early next year. I also need to find a commercial publisher for all three books. It’s time.
How to be Authentic and Loving in an Emotionally Illiterate Culture
In order to save ink (haha) I will redirect you to read that article on the Circling Guide site. It’s the root context of the new book, of why Authentic Relating is both so fun and so challenging.